Social chameleon

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Evidence
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Social chameleon

Post by Evidence » May 21st, 2019, 8:37 am

Hello everyone,
I'm new here.... just wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves a social chameleon - taking on the characteristics of the person you are interacting with ?

How do you know who you really are?
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PowerMechGuy
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Re: Social chameleon

Post by PowerMechGuy » June 10th, 2019, 6:29 am

Hello and welcome.

In real life, I notice this a lot. In fact I think it became a sort of technique for me.
I'd always try to listen and see where the other person was coming from so I could continue
the conversation based on what they were saying. As things tend to get old very
quickly when no one chooses an idea to develop.

As for knowing who you really are:
It's difficult. I think sometimes people get lost in their behaviors and habits. But
I think it lies in what you find interesting. Most of the time, when we adjust ourselves
to "be compatible" with the person we are talking to, I think we are just trying to create
a comfortable atmosphere and support a positive discourse. But in those rare moments
where you start listening intently, I think you find a part of yourself.

But of course, this is all just my speculative opinion.

I'd love to hear your process for "blending in".
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lonewolf
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Re: Social chameleon

Post by lonewolf » July 25th, 2019, 8:41 pm

Evidence wrote: May 21st, 2019, 8:37 am Hello everyone,
I'm new here.... just wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves a social chameleon - taking on the characteristics of the person you are interacting with ?

How do you know who you really are?
This is the textbook description of me and no, I don't know who I really am. And I'm really struggling with that, being dismayed and unmotivated because of that. Welcome to the forum.
MaineCoon
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Re: Social chameleon

Post by MaineCoon » May 10th, 2021, 4:59 pm

PowerMechGuy wrote: June 10th, 2019, 6:29 am Hello and welcome.

In real life, I notice this a lot. In fact I think it became a sort of technique for me.
I'd always try to listen and see where the other person was coming from so I could continue
the conversation based on what they were saying. As things tend to get old very
quickly when no one chooses an idea to develop.

As for knowing who you really are:
It's difficult. I think sometimes people get lost in their behaviors and habits. But
I think it lies in what you find interesting. Most of the time, when we adjust ourselves
to "be compatible" with the person we are talking to, I think we are just trying to create
a comfortable atmosphere and support a positive discourse. But in those rare moments
where you start listening intently, I think you find a part of yourself.

But of course, this is all just my speculative opinion.

I'd love to hear your process for "blending in".

Instead of judging yourself through MBTI with some fancy four letters. Try Jungian cognitive functions test to get accurate picture. What u said above sounds a bit platonic to me, u won't get nowhere with such sort of thinking. Usually people create images and these images interact with each other. A same person has created images as a son, father, husband, friend and likewise and those images interact with outside world. If u choose to collect a description of person from the recipients of those images, each will present a different picture of same person but of course with some similarities.

Blending in depends upon several factors but commonly it depends upon your personality type. If u happen to be in the middle of the personality scale less blending in will happen. Similarly if u happen to be on the extreme then it will be more.

Hope this helps
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